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When do you know?

When do you begin to believe you are ready to have children or how do you come by the decision to start trying.  I know there are the accidental “bundles of joy”, but for those of you that planned your families when did you believe you:

 ·         Had enough money.

·         Were responsible enough.

·         Would actually be able to do it.

·         Wanted to bring a child into this world.

·         Had the time to offer a child (children)

·         Would be able to cope with screaming baby, the tantrum-ing two year old or the hormonal teenagers

 

Or am I over thinking this? 

Did you just think: “Ok been married a while now, it is the next step, we will manage when it happens.” and get down to business??

There was an article in our paper yesterday about this father that rescued his family and dog from the raging seas.  He lived in a shack behind some buildings on the shore front and when the huge swells and waves came crashing they all had to make mad dash and their shack and possessions got washed away.  This man has two very young children.  How did he feel that he has enough to offer?  We have a decent house, my husband and I both have decent jobs (even if I complain about mine at times), we are both in our thirties, we have been married for over a year and yet we both feel too irresponsible, too immature, too young?  When do you get over this? 

 

Or if we are asking these questions does it mean we are ready – or alternatively does it mean we are not???

 

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3 thoughts on “When do you know?

  1. No, it was just on the other site and I am not really sure how to move these things across!

    I would never delete a comment. Well, unless it included bad language, was vulgar or just down right offensive.

    I really enjoy getting comments! So keep them coming. (Please)

  2. It was the longest comment I ever wrote without using the word “Zuma”.
    Possibly, anyway.

    Here it is. In all its glory. Magnificent.

    For me/us:

    Had enough money? Certainly something we considered.

    Were responsible enough? Of course – although you soon GET responsible enough. You have no choice.

    Would actually be able to do it? You never believe you are actually going to be able to do it. That’s why it’s still such a shock when junior pops out.

    Wanted to bring a child into this world? Yes, but this is a natural progression of your loving relationship. Yes, bad things happen in the world, but you protect your child from those things. If no-one chose to have kids, there would be no world anyway. And the good moments FAR outweigh the bad ones.

    Had the time to offer a child (children)? Yip – and this is a toughie. But you make the best use of the time you do get.

    Would be able to cope with screaming baby, the tantrum-ing two year old or the hormonal teenagers? You have no clue until it happens, but there’s a lot of natural instinct involved. And as for the commitment into the teenage years (and beyond) – it’s a real mix of chore and joy. It’s an ongoing project. But you get out what you put in.

    Or am I over thinking this? Not at all – important decisions and you need to be sure.

    Did you just think: “Ok been married a while now, it is the next step, we will manage when it happens.” and get down to business??

    After you’ve considered everything, you still need to do the deed. And since you don’t know at the time the significance of that particular deed, it’s not really a big deal. One quick spot of horizontal lambada later and bob’s your father. uncle. Whatever.

    Oh go on – have a kid – you know you want to.

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