When do you begin to believe you are ready to have children or how do you come by the decision to start trying. I know there are the accidental “bundles of joy”, but for those of you that planned your families when did you believe you:
· Had enough money.
· Were responsible enough.
· Would actually be able to do it.
· Wanted to bring a child into this world.
· Had the time to offer a child (children)
· Would be able to cope with screaming baby, the tantrum-ing two year old or the hormonal teenagers
Or am I over thinking this?
Did you just think: “Ok been married a while now, it is the next step, we will manage when it happens.” and get down to business??
There was an article in our paper yesterday about this father that rescued his family and dog from the raging seas. He lived in a shack behind some buildings on the shore front and when the huge swells and waves came crashing they all had to make mad dash and their shack and possessions got washed away. This man has two very young children. How did he feel that he has enough to offer? We have a decent house, my husband and I both have decent jobs (even if I complain about mine at times), we are both in our thirties, we have been married for over a year and yet we both feel too irresponsible, too immature, too young? When do you get over this?
Or if we are asking these questions does it mean we are ready – or alternatively does it mean we are not???