Posted in Family, Ordinarylife, Pregnancy

The naming game

I have names on the brain.  Every time I hear I name I think about whether or not I like it.  Not as in on that person but as in “would I call my child that?”  I think I might be becoming obsessed. 

I have about 4 lists all over the place.  At some stage I am going to have collate them and maybe shorten it down to a top 5 or so. 

So….. any suggestions???  As long as you are not offended if I say NO WAY IN HELL!!! 

But here are my restrictions.  MR OL likes something a bit more conventional.  However his conventional and my conventional don’t seem to be the same.  

I like shorter names, probably because they are harder to shorten and I dislike shortening names.  For example my name is Pamela.  I DO NOT get called Pam.  Well I do, but I HATE it.  Especially when I first introduce myself and say “Hi my name is Pamela (and I am a …… jokes) and the person says “Hi Pam” URGH that freaks me out.  However most of the names I like can be shortened…. 

Also we don’t know what we are having so I am looking at boys and girls names.  My girls list is longer than my boys list at the moment.  I am really battling with boys names…. 

Here are my top 5 10 in each but this changes on a daily basis!!  And is in no particular order. 


Jonathan (yes, I know not short)
Matthew (uhmmm, as I said battling with boys)
Luke (but can’t call him this because we stupidly named our dog Duke)



Mira (Mr OL will NOT go with this one)
Kiera (or this one)
Sage (or this one)

Mr OL’s favourite girl’s name is Rachel, but I am not sure about it.  It is kind of growing on me…

Just as well that we have another 6 months to think about this.  I will probably be like my mom with my sister and only name her when she was about 6 weeks old.  Up until then she was “the baby”.

Posted in Humour

Eve’s side of the story.


Here is the joke that I received in mail the other day.  I thought it very funny – and to me it makes a lot more sense that that other story that has been going around for years…….



After three weeks in the Garden of Eden, God came to visit Eve. “So, how is everything going?” inquired God.

“It is all so beautiful, God,” she replied. “The sunrises and sunsets are breathtaking, the smells, the sights, everything is wonderful, but I have just one problem.

It’s these breasts you have given me. The middle one pushes the other two out and I am constantly knocking them with my arms, catching them on branches and snagging them on bushes. They’re a real pain.”

And Eve went on to tell God that since many other parts of her body came in pairs, such as her limbs, eyes, ears, etc. She felt that having only two breasts might leave her body more “symmetrically balanced”.

“That’s a fair point,” replied God, “But it was my first shot at this, you know. I gave the animals six breasts, so I figured that you needed only half of those, but I see that you are right. I will fix it up right away.”

And God reached down, removed the middle breast and tossed it into the bushes

Three weeks passed and God once again visited Eve in the Garden of Eden.

” Well, Eve, how is my favorite creation?”

“Just fantastic,” she replied, “But for one oversight. You see, all the animals are paired off. The ewe has a ram and the cow has her bull. All the animals have a mate except me. I feel so alone.”

God thought for a moment and said, “You know, Eve, you are right. How could I have overlooked this? You do need a mate and I will immediately create a man from a part of you. Let’s see….where did I put that useless tit?”

Now doesn’t THAT make more sense than all that crap about the rib?

Posted in Ordinarylife, Plettenberg Bay, Port Elizabeth, Pregnancy

A LONG meme!

What’s the last thing you put in your mouth?
Water – I have a bottle on my desk and am trying to drink from it regularly.

Have you ever kissed anyone named Matthew?
Not that I can remember.  But that is not saying much.  Misspent and often best not remember youth…..

Who was the last person you rode in a car with under the age of 20?
I can’t remember.  It would have been a few years ago.  I used to give a little boy a lift every now and then when his mom could not pick him up.

Can you play guitar hero?
What is that?

Last time you walked further than a block?
Most days I walk further than a block.

How late did you stay up last night and why?
It was a “late” night for me.  I went to bed at about 10.  I was watching TV.

If you could move somewhere else, would you?
Not easily, but if I could find a way to earn an income and live somewhere in the country I would.

Do you believe ex’s can be friends?

Do you like calling or texting better?
Texting during the week and calling on weekends (free minutes)

When was the last time you cried really hard?
I can’t remember.  I shed a tear pretty easily but cry really hard – I have not done that for a while.

Where are you at right now?
At work

What bed did you sleep in last night?
The one I sleep in most nights. 

What was the last thing someone bought for you?
Mr OL bought me a chocolate on the weekend.  But it was coffee flavoured, which I don’t like so I gave it back to him in his lunch box yesterday.

Who took your profile picture?
A friend of mine Genny – It was New Years Eve 2 years ago.

Who was the last person you took a picture of?
One of the girls I work with.  I made her stand next to something I wanted to take a picture of so I could get a better perspective of the height of it.

Was yesterday better than today?
They were pretty much the same.

Can you live a day without TV?
Absolutely!!! When are they coming to take it away.

When was the last time you were extremely disappointed?
I am not sure about extremely disappointed.  I can recall mildly disappointed and that was on Friday.

Are you a bad influence?
Not any more……

Night out or night in?
Night in – I had far to many nights out in my 20’s and early 30’s and now give anything for a quiet night in.  Which is just as well because Mr OL does not like going out much either.  Unless, the night out is to a good restaurant with friends – then out!

Are you more of an individual or an outgoing person?
I would say more individual.

What items could you not go without during the day?
My car, if I am in town. 

Would you share a drink with a stranger?

Do you think it’s right for straight guys to get their tongue pierced?
Why would anybody do that – straight or gay?  But each to their own and if that is what they wanted to do then so be it.  Just don’t suck on it, chew it or play with it near me.

Have you ever thrown shoes on a telephone wire?

What does the last message in your inbox say?
“Eve’s side of the story”  A joke from my Sister in Law.  I thought it very funny.

How do you feel about your life right now?
I am pretty content.  Some things could be better, but all in all I am very happy with the way things are going. 

How many times have you been pulled over by the police?
Once, where they just pulled me over.  But a couple of times in road blocks. 

Do you hate anyone?
No, there are a few people that I dislike but I would not say that I hate anybody.

Do you talk dirty to people?

If we were to look in your inbox, what would we find?
Lots of mail that I intend on deleting or filing but have still to get to.

Did you have a valentine this year?
Well I suppose Mr OL would qualify as a Valentine if he believed in it.  I bought him a card, but it is a pretty much a one way street.

Last person you talked to on the phone?
One of the girls I work with. She did not want to walk all the way to my office (next to hers) so she called me.

Can you easily tell if someone is fake?

How’s your heart?
Strong and happy.

Say you were given a drug test right now, Would you pass?

Has anyone ever called you perfect before?
Does a “perfect pain in the butt” count?

What song is stuck in your head?
None at the moment, but I am sure that as soon as I post this one will be.

Someone knocks on your window at 2 am, who do you want it to be?
My sister surprising me from London.

What do you have to do this week?

Can you whistle?
NO, not at all. 

Do you sleep on your side, stomach, or back?
Back and Side. Usually start off on my back and roll over.

What gets in your way of your sleeping?
At the moment the fact that I am usually thirsty and as soon as I drink anything I need to go and pee (the joys of pregnancy)!!

Are your eyes the same colour as your mom’s or dad’s?
Closer to my dads, but mine are greener than his.

Has anyone ever told you you have pretty eyes?

Do you think too much or too little?

Depends on the situation.

Do you smile a lot?

Why was the last missed call on your phone?
I don’t answer calls from “private number”.  They are always from people trying to sell me stuff.

Are you happy with your life?
Yes, I think it has turned out just the way it was intended to.  I was thinking about it the other day and I could not have written a better script if I had tried.  I have travelled around the world, climbed the highest mountain in Africa, done some extreme sports and now am happily married and expecting our first child, and all so far has gone exceedingly well with this pregnancy.  I could not be happier!!!

Can you handle the truth?
I don’t handle critism well, but would much rather have the truth than lies.  I might react strongly initially but I usually with think it over and then come up with a better solution.

Do you get 8 hours of sleep everyday?
Usually – at the moment it is more like 10.

What was the last book you read?
“Exercising through your pregnancy” by James Clapp.  I am re-reading “World without End” by Ken Follet.  I read it last month and loved it so am reading it again.  It is the sequel to Pillars of the Earth which I first read about 14 years ago and is my all time favourite book.

Is there something you always wear?
My wedding ring

What were you doing 30 minutes ago?
This is a flippen long meme – I was probably anwering about the 10th question!!!

Honestly, who was the last person to tell that they love you?
My husband before he went to work.

Are you an emotional person?
Depends on the situation – I am pregnant so at the moment YES!

What’s something that can always make you feel better?
A run or an open water swim!

Was this weekend a good one?
It was another lazy one, but all in all it was pretty good.

What do you want right now?
SUSHI!! But that is pretty much out of the question for at least the next 6 months!

Look behind you, what do you see?
A promotional photo of my sister and I in our Ironman t-shirts with the children from the EP Child and Youth Care Centre.

Have you ever worked in a food place?
Yes!!!  Far too many and I still get nightmares.  I worked as a waitress full time for over 2 years.  And part time for another 2.  My very first job was a holiday job in Plettenberg Bay at a pizza place when I was 16 – I lasted 2 days before I walked out crying.  Not to be outdone I applied at another pizza place the next day and worked there for the rest of the holiday.  I worked there the following December as well.  When I was at Varsity I started working at a Spur in Port Elizabeth HORRIBLE!!!  I then changed Spur’s and worked at Silver Cloud Spur for nearly 2 years.  I had a great time and made some awesome friends!  I then moved to Cape Town and worked at a Spur there too HORRIBLE – so I changed Spur’s again and worked at the Santa Ana Spur in the Waterfront.  I loved working there and stayed for about a year.  I moved back to PE and back to the Silver Cloud Spur.  I stayed there for about 4 months before going to London and vowing NEVER EVER to waitress again.  That lasted about 2 weeks until I started running out of money.  I worked at a hotel in the restaurant for about 2 weeks until the girl I went to London with got us both a job at a pub.  That lasted less than a week.  I then said enough is enough and have not worked in food again.  That was in 1994!  Unless of course you count that I run a guest house for a couple of years and we did breakfasts…..


WOW – That was LONG!  Thanks Mel for posting it.  It is just what I felt like doing today.

Posted in Ordinarylife, Pregnancy, Women

Certain people are RUDE!

Well in this case – certain women are rude! 

I went to a friend’s daughter’s first birthday party on Saturday.  Besides being overrun with one year olds it was great.  My friend did a very good job at decorating, snacks etc and I knew some of the people (my brother and his fiancé) so generally had fun. 

My friend, being the great hostess that she is, introduced me to some of the other people there and told them that I was pregnant.  One of the first questions they asked me was “Was it planned”.  Uhm excuse me!!!!!!  The first couple of times I let it slide and just answered yes, but the more I thought about it the more people that asked me the more cross I became.  Firstly – what the heck does it have to do with them and secondly – so what if it was or wasn’t! The outcome is still the same. 

These people knew NOTHING about me. They did not know if I was married (although maybe the ring gave it away), they did not know if I had a history of trying or problems conceiving.  I felt that this question is totally inappropriate!  I spoke to another of my friends and she said she got it a couple of times as well. 

Is this just ANOTHER of those things that you need to get used to when becoming pregnant or a parent.  People think nothing of discussing very personal issues with you even it is none of their business? 

Later that night I could not sleep – I kept thinking of smart replies that I should have come up with.  Here are a few: 

  • UHM – NO, I started having sex when I was about 17, so pretty regularly for the past 20 YEARS, but birth control, jeez – you know that has kind of gotten me stumped!!! 
  • “Was yours?” 
  • Uhm, well I kind of just fell on my husbands willy while I was neekid and this is what happened? 
  • Uhm, not really, I just had a one night stand with your husband and we weren’t planning on telling you – but then as you can see I am not that good at planning…..

 Can you think of any more because I am sure it is going to happen again….

Posted in Cycling, hiking, Ironman, Morning Sickness, Ordinarylife, Pregnancy, Running, Swimming, Training, Triathlon, Wetsuit, Whale Trail, Women

Exercise and Pregnancy.

I decided to do a post about exercising and pregnancy.  Now as a disclaimer before I write I want to reiterate that I am NOT medically qualified.  Do NOT take what I write as the only way to do things and most importantly before starting (or continuing) an exercise program when pregnant CONSULT YOUR DOCTOR!!! 

That said: 

Mr OL and I decided that we would start trying to have a baby after we had been married a year – which was in August 2008.  I was quite into triathlons and running was worried that if I fell pregnant I would need to stop doing this.  So I started looking online for examples of people who had run through their pregnancy, what their experiences were and how long they were able to keep running.  I also spoke to a number of running friends and found out about their experiences. 

I also found some blogs of girls that were triathletes and moms and read what they had done.  Some good examples that I found were Bree Wee, Mama Simmons and Rachel’s blog, Run like a MotherBree Wee is a professional triathlete and her blog is very informative (and fun to read).  Mama Simmon’s has a few links to girls that were pregnant at the same time as her and continuted running.  I also went onto various forums to see what else I could find out.  In the mean time I started training for Ironman South Africa (and hoped to hell I did not fall pregnant as it grew closer and closer to the race).  Luckily I am good at counting so odds were against it. 

After IM we all know what happened.  One of the first things one of MR OL’s friends said to me was “now you have to stop all that nonsense.”  Cough, cough uhhh ‘scuse me!!!  No I don’t.  Just because I am pregnant does not mean that need to stop anything.  I bought James Clapp’s book “Exercising through your pregnancy” and started reading. 

Here is what I found out (remember that this is only my interpretation of what I have read).  Running is fine, swimming is fine, dancing is fine (except I have no rhythm and being pregnant is not going to help), aerobics is fine (except see previous post), cycling is fine and so is pretty much everything else with moderation.  With the exception of deep sea diving and high altitudes if you don’t already live up there.  Cycling is also not advised as your pregnancy progresses but just because your centre of balance is off and you might fall (or I might fall as I wobble a bit anyway). 

You can carry on running (or whatever) right through your pregnancy – with the consent of your doctor.  However if it is a low risk, normal pregnancy there should be no problems.  Obviously doing a marathon at high speed is not advised.  But your normal jog around the block(s) is actually recommended.  That old rule of not getting your heart rate above 140 has gone out the window.  Now it is recommend that you go on Rate of Perceived Exertion.  Moderate to moderate/hard is recommend.  Basically you should be able to hold a conversation (with a bit of puffing).  Just as well that HR thing went out the window, mine gets up there just buy walking around the block (I have a high HR what can I say). 

Now to the interesting things I found out while reading James Clapp’s book.  People who exercised throughout their pregnancy picked up less weight, delivered babies that had a lower fat percentage (but were the same size atomically) and were less likely to deliver late.  There were no instances were exercise had caused a baby to be born prematurely or that exercising had caused any other problems.  In fact babies of mothers who exercised were more able to cope with trauma’s during pregnancy like dehydration or hemorrhaging because the placenta was better developed.  The most interesting fact that I picked up though was of mothers who had exercised then stopped in the 3rd trimester.  Their weight caught up to and sometimes exceeded the mothers that had not exercised at all.  Their babies were quite a bit fatter and they were more likely to deliver late.  It seems to me that either exercise or don’t – but don’t’ stop ½ way!!! 

He also found that exercising moms coped better with labour, but that it did not affect duration. 

The risks people associate with exercising are that the baby will overheat or that when you exercise your blood flows away from your internal organs.  Apparently your body is designed to cope with these and protects the baby.  It appears from their research that exercising moms are more able to cope with heat than non exercising (benefit to me seeing as I will be pregnant in summer) and that yes, the blood does flow away from the internal organs including the womb, but in exercising moms the placenta is better developed, the babies heart rate also increases but not dangerously so, and the baby slows down its movement while you are exercising as if to conserve energy.  From all their tests there were not instances where this caused trauma or distress to the baby. 

Obviously there are quite a few exercises and conditions in which you should not exercise, like in excessive heat or that yoga done in a hot room and stuff like that.  You also need to make sure that you don’t dehydrate (good advice for any athlete).   Also if you are a competitive athlete you will need to cut back, but for the general recreational athlete, in consultation with her doctor it seems as if running (or jumping up and down in an aerobics room) is fine.  They do recommend that towards the end you use some support of some kind because the reason most women stop is comfort.  

Now my personal experience: I was running up till 6 weeks, in fact the morning I found out I had been for a 10km run and felt great.  However the next week morning sickness hit and I just did not feel like running or doing much of anything.  So I stopped.  I have since been walking quite a bit, including a 55km 5 day hike and been for a few shorter slow runs.  I feel a lot better now and am missing it a lot.  I will start again slowly and have set myself a goal (I don’t function without them).  As far as cycling goes – I stopped the day I found out.  I don’t want to take the chance.  I am not the best cyclist and although I have not fallen a lot, I have fallen so with my balance off it would be too risky.  I might get on the stationary bike at the gym when it gets too hot to run outside.  I also can’t wait for the weekly sea swims to start again but am worried that I won’t fit into my wetsuit.  I HATE cold water.  I am going to try and run/swim for as long as I can.  Hopefully throughout my entire pregnancy.  I will let you know how it goes. 

As for my goal – it is a triathlon 2 months after the baby is born.  It is a very short one – even shorter than a sprint.  I will see how I feel (I might not want to sit on my bike just yet). 

There is so much more that I could write and probably should, but for now I am going to stop there.  If you have any questions please feel free to ask ….. your doctor!!  Or me if you want.

If you are pregnant and want to know more I would seriously recommend reading Bree Wee’s blog about when she was pregant and what she did.  Her child is now 3.

Posted in Ironman, Ordinarylife, Pregnancy

NT Scan result back

We got the test results back from the NT Scan and blood tests!!! 

I now feel like I can officially celebrate.  I am out of the 1st trimester and the screening tests have all come back good.  They confirmed that I am only pregnant with one child (phew) and that the risk of Down’s is low.

If the rest of the pregnancy carries on like this and I will be a very happy girl. 

In other news I am feeling slightly envious of my friends as they are beginning to train for Ironman South Africa again, and the status up dates and stuff remind me of last year.  But then again, at least when I wake up it is light and has been for a while.  They are still struggling in the dark.  There are some benefits to not training for Ironman……

Posted in Dogs, Family, Morning Sickness, Ordinarylife, Pregnancy, Restuarants, Running, Women

General Update

I have been a very bad blogger!  Here are some updates. 

On Tuesday Mr OL and I celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary.  In some instances it has flown by and in others it seems as if we have always been together.   Mr OL took me out for dinner and by that I mean I told him he was taking me out, booked the restaurant and told him the time and place.  I kindly let him pay (the taking me out part).  I think he might have realized just how much being pregnant has made me go off meat.  His very carnivorous wife went to her favourite steakhouse and ordered the vegetarian platter.  It was actually very good. 

On Saturday I was feeling quite good so I went for my first run in a while.  Oh boy!!!  I did not realise just how quickly I would loose some of my fitness.  I intended on running 10km but settled for a very slow 7km.  It was good to be out again – but then the weather turned all nasty on me and I have not been out again.  This weekend I promise!! 

I posted the pictures of our 12 week scan.  It is actually the scan where they do the NT Test and some blood test to check to see if it is a high risk pregnancy with regards to Down’s syndrome and other chromosomal problems.  The scan looked good and the neck fold was 1.31mm which is considered good.  Anything under 3mm is good.  I am still waiting for the combined results and should get them on Monday afternoon or Tuesday.  I think after that I will calm down and enjoy this pregnancy a bit more.  I think because of my age I am a bit worried.  I will also be in my 2nd trimester from next week and I have heard that is better….  Not that I have been that sick or anything.  Just the occasional migraine and wave of nausea, but nothing compared to what some people go through. 

I did buy the first baby toy yesterday.  It is a fluffy sheep that snores.  I was in hysterics in the shop so had to get it.  Its tummy moves up and down as it snores as well.  My dogs are not so sure and Daisy started to growl at it.  We then “introduced” them and she just sat and stared at it.  Another funny thing that happened yesterday was that there was a baby crying on the TV.  Both my dogs jumped up and started staring at the TV.  They don’t usually pay much attention to the noises on the TV.  I rewound it and played it back to them.  After the 3rd time they got bored and ignored it.  It will be interesting to see how the react to a real baby.  I am sure that Duke will be all protective and Daisy will just want it to get a bit bigger so she could run around with it.  

Well – that’s all for now.  HOME TIME!!  And weekend.  Have a great one.

Posted in Family, Food, Gardening, Ordinarylife, Port Elizabeth, Running, Swimming, Wetsuit

Long weekend and other stuff.

It is another long weekend here – woo hoo! The 9th is Woman’s Day but because it falls on a Sunday we get Monday off.  It is quite pleasant because it means next week is another short week for me – 4 day work weeks I can just about cope with. (yes, I know – we get lots of public holidays and I am NOT complaining)

We don’t have much planned for this weekend.  We are meeting up with friends tonight that are down from East London.  It will be nice to see them as we don’t get up there very much.  

Tomorrow I might go for a run or a swim – but the run is looking more likely.  But then again, I might just stay all curled up in bed.  One of the peole coming down from East London might want to go for a sea swim on Saturday morning but he does not have a wetsuit so think he will cancel that idea when he feels the water.

On Sunday we have been invited to a wedding.  I have not been to that many wedding (5 including my own) so I am quite excited.  Most of my friends are either single or got married while I was living overseas.  This is a wedding of a very good friend of my sisters (and now mine).  We jokingly say that we are all sisters or cousins or as close as because our mothers are like twins sometimes.  They are best friends and usually rock up at places wearing the same or very similar clothes.  Her mom is one of the people that did the Whale Trail with us. 

Other than that I have NO plans and it sounds wonderful!!!!  I need to do something about my herb garden as it has been seriously neglected and my parsley and coriander as over grown everything else and has now gone to seed.  It is standing about a meter high and looks terrible.  My poor sage is swamped.  I hope it is still under there somewhere.  I also know I planted carrots a while back but have forgotten all about them.  I planted them in a flower bed somewhere so should probably go and have a look and see if I can find them.  I am excited that spring is coming up and I can plant a whole lot of stuff again.  I want a full veggie and herb garden this summer.  

I tried planting green peppers, sweet peas, tomatoes and lettuce last summer.  The only thing that took was the lettuce.  We replanted again a few months ago and are still enjoying homegrown lettuce leaves in our salad.  It is great living in a temperate climate where we can grow some stuff all year round.  Luckily we don’t get frost here.  

In a similar vein my worm farm is doing great!!  I have not killed them and they produce plenty of worm “tea” which I dilute and use as fertilizer.  I have not had any compost from them as I have not really put in any filler and they seem to eat or break down most of the stuff that I do put in rather effectively so there is not much “ worm casting” left over to use as compost.  It is quite cool because they recycle all of our organic waste besides stuff from the citrus and onion families which worms apparently don’t like.  Also the “Glass Recycling Company” has put a bin quite close to our house so this year we have been recycling ALL of our glass.  It is so much easier when there is a bin close by.  Now I just need to work on the plastics and tin stuff.  I will eventually get there and have a much greener house.  There are 2 things I want to do soon.  One is put water tanks on all of our down pipes and the other is try to find a supplier that sells energy saver down lighters.  I know you get them but I can’t find them in our area.  All of our freestanding lights now have energy saver bulbs but the down lighters – which we use the most still have the normal bulbs.  If any knows of a place in PE that sells energy saver down lighters please let me know. 

Hope you all have a fantastic weekend!!