Well in this case – certain women are rude!
I went to a friend’s daughter’s first birthday party on Saturday. Besides being overrun with one year olds it was great. My friend did a very good job at decorating, snacks etc and I knew some of the people (my brother and his fiancé) so generally had fun.
My friend, being the great hostess that she is, introduced me to some of the other people there and told them that I was pregnant. One of the first questions they asked me was “Was it planned”. Uhm excuse me!!!!!! The first couple of times I let it slide and just answered yes, but the more I thought about it the more people that asked me the more cross I became. Firstly – what the heck does it have to do with them and secondly – so what if it was or wasn’t! The outcome is still the same.
These people knew NOTHING about me. They did not know if I was married (although maybe the ring gave it away), they did not know if I had a history of trying or problems conceiving. I felt that this question is totally inappropriate! I spoke to another of my friends and she said she got it a couple of times as well.
Is this just ANOTHER of those things that you need to get used to when becoming pregnant or a parent. People think nothing of discussing very personal issues with you even it is none of their business?
Later that night I could not sleep – I kept thinking of smart replies that I should have come up with. Here are a few:
- UHM – NO, I started having sex when I was about 17, so pretty regularly for the past 20 YEARS, but birth control, jeez – you know that has kind of gotten me stumped!!!
- “Was yours?”
- Uhm, well I kind of just fell on my husbands willy while I was neekid and this is what happened?
- Uhm, not really, I just had a one night stand with your husband and we weren’t planning on telling you – but then as you can see I am not that good at planning…..
Can you think of any more because I am sure it is going to happen again….