I generally love being a working woman. I get satisfaction from bringing in my “own” money and from the interaction with my peers. Especially when asked for my opinion or for advice. I feel equal in my relationship and that I don’t have to answer to Mr OL on how I spend “my” money. (Not that I feel a SAHM/D should either – another debate) However at the moment I am really battling with the conflict of being a full time working woman and a mom.
Little OL loves her new pre-school but I am finding that having her in the after-care is making the day just too long for her. Last year she was a day care till 5 as well, but it was geared towards the younger kids. They had strict nap times and (I believe) that they ensured they all ate – although I did have my doubts that she ate everything they said she did. She’s never been the biggest eater.
Now, every day her lunch boxes are coming back untouched or pretty close to it. I am trying all her favourites but no joy. I would not stress too much about this, but she is also not napping at the school and so comes home exhausted and falls asleep in the car. The first day I woke her but that was a total disaster, now I just put her to bed. She sleeps through – yip, over 13 hours straight. The problem is that she is then also skipping dinner. I need to get food in the child at some stage!
I have spoken to the school and we are trying different options. Yesterday was better and she did actually nap at school and so was awake for dinner. Happiness, but generally this is making me question my reasons for working full day. I know that this is something that gets worse not better. As she gets older she is going to need me more and more in the afternoons – what with homework, after school activities etc.
Unfortunately even going half day is not really an option at the moment though so it is just something I (and all the other full time working parents) am going to have to deal with. It sucks!