Here is a charcoal sketch I finished last night – copied from a photo I took of Little OL.
Ok, a snap poll….
1. At what age do you start letting your kid decide on the theme of their own party….
(if you say anything younger than 13 I am not going to be happy)
That was question one, here is question 2 –
2. How soon is too soon to start planning their next party…….
I might have already started planning Little OL’s 4th Birthday party. Or at least – I think I have already decided on a theme for her 4th Birthday party and happily begun pinning away (and yes I know she has only just turned 3).
I did get her input – kind off… The conversation went something like this.
How about planes for your next party?………………… (blank stare)
You love planes right?……………………………………….. (non-committal nod)
Planes would be fantastic wouldn’t they?……………. (another non-committal nod)
Wow, that would be so cool – planes!………………… (another blank stare)
So… I am taking that as a “yes” to planes – and the brainwashing has already begun.
HERE is a link to the my Pinterest board.
I do however realise that it is a year away and that she might put her foot down about the theme (or I might be bored with it) so yes, it might change between now and February 2014.
How awesome is this party – found over here http://www.karaspartyideas.com/2013/03/girly-airline-themed-5th-birthday-party.html – go have a look.
This morning while driving to work a lady pulled out of a parking space and into the road directly in front of me, so that she was perpendicular across the road. I had to hit my brakes hard to avoid hitting the side of her car. At the same time I hit my hooter and then threw my arms up in frustration.
That is when the fun started. The lady started yelling and screaming and swearing and gesturing at me, ranting and raving. I looked back in amazement and gestured that she was the one perpendicular (and now not moving) across the entire road and I had nearly driven into the side of her car. This just set her off more, totally bouncing around in her seat shouting and swearing. That was when I started to laugh. I mean, it was actually quite funny, I could not hear what she was saying, and she was waving her arms madly and bouncing around. She looked so cross and ugly that there was nothing much else I could do. She was also about 75 years old in the shade. However, she did not appreciate being laughed at and so carried on. This just set me off more…. Eventually she moved off the road and I laughed all the way to work.
It did get me thinking though. I also lose my cool in traffic, I am quick to anger, wave my arms or shout at somebody that cuts me off. I probably look just as stupid and ugly as this woman did this morning. I am going to try better.
I am not talking at work. I am talking about stuff around the house, personal stuff and for your kids. Stuff that the mom traditionally used to do. Would you outsource more if you weren’t restricted by finances or a weird sense of mommy guilt or do you enjoy doing the all stuff you do?
This conversation has come up in our family lately. Especially with Little OL’s birthday party. I did it all myself, designed and made the invitations and printables, made the cakes, biscuits and everything else, including the party boxes. I even blew up all the balloons. I however LOVE doing all that stuff (well maybe not the balloons part). I love creating stuff, making stuff and being busy. Mr OL on the other hands says he would gladly pay somebody to do it all. He would prefer just arrive on the day. I have told him that when all she wants to do is go to the Spur or something similar then he and his wallet are on duty.
It got me thinking about other aspects of my life. How much do I outsource and if I outsourced more would it simplify my life and let me get on with doing more stuff I enjoyed or do I really enjoy what it is that I do anyway? I do have a lady that cleans my house; she comes 4 days a week. She does all the cleaning, laundry, ironing etc. But, I have been wondering if I could utilise her time better for example by getting her to prepare the veggies for the evening meal? We also have a garden service that mows our lawn and have had a gardener every other weekend. (He went and got a full time job and we have not found another).
Then there is Little OL’s After Care, I work full time so am in an essence outsourcing the care of my child, prior to her going to day care / school we had a full time nanny/domestic.
There are so many services out there, au pairs, night nurses, transport to after school activities, pre-packed lunches, party planners, pool cleaners – the list is endless. How many of these kinds of services do you use or plan to use as your child gets older or do you feel it your responsibility where feasible to do as much of it as possible?
PS: Sorry about the overuse of the word “outsource”. It’s a hot topic at work too.