Are you a feminist – or do you think you would have been if necessary?
I don’t think I am, but then I guess I should thank all the people that came before me and fought for stuff that I now take for granted.
However!!! There are some things that really annoy me. My hackles rise and I just get generally pissed off. It is when I am not taken seriously or my decision does not seem to count (or I am asked to make tea at work – but that’s another story).
Lately both occasions have happened in regards to my rental property. Once, before I was married and then again this week.
LONG before my husband and I met I bought a house and walled piece of land with a couple of garages on it. I have always rented these out. A couple of years ago, when I was showing somebody the garages to rent out the man said to me. “I think you should first discuss this with your husband, you can’t just let out a man’s garage”. Mmmmmm, lets think about this shall we?????? No!!! Well I don’t think the poor man knew what hit him, but lets just say it was a barrage of statements along the lines of “If I had a man in my life, which I thankfully don’t if you are anything to go by……” and “I don’t need to discuss this with anyone” and then “Women can own property without the permission of a man…..” and well lets just say he did not get the garage, and left with his ears ringing.
Then this week – and I think I handled it slightly better this time – I need some maintenance work done on the houses. I showed the builder round and he said, “I will send you a quote so that you and your husband can discuss it”. Now yes, I agree, that some things might need to be discussed, but not this. My house, my money, my decision! I just said to him, “yes, please fax it through to me and I’ll make a decision”.
So, no I am not a feminist, but believe me if I did not feel that I had equal rights I probably would fight very hard for them. But then again, maybe considering yesterday’s post, it is another title that I don’t feel happy being defined by.
My Happy Pace! 